Should I approach guys and ask them straightforwardly or should I wait for them to tell me?

Should I approach guys and ask them straightforwardly or should I wait for them to tell me?
  

  There comes a point in every romantic/dating relationship where it’s important to learn about the other person’s sexual history, and that includes pornography.  It’s fair, at this point to ask about it, however, there has to be a lot of trust in the relationship as well as openness and understanding for someone to be willing to talk about their pornography addiction.  For some who are struggling with pornography addictions, there is so much shame and/or denial that sometimes trust, openness and understanding are not enough for them to admit to a pornography addiction.  It’s a very delicate subject, and one that would be brought up with care and concern.  Going up to all your friends in a public place and demanding that they tell you whether or not they’ve looked at porn probably isn’t isn’t the best way to go about it.  However, finding some quiet time alone to ask about their experience with pornography in an understanding way could make it seem safe enough to talk about.
   

If you wait for them to tell you about it, it may never happen and you could be left wondering for years.  Especially if this person is going to be an important part of your life, like a spouse or a serious boyfriend, it’s better to ask to relieve all worries or doubts in the back of your mind.  However, if you’re not prepared to hear that this someone is addicted to pornography, it’s better not to ask.  Your reaction to their confession may push them deeper into their addiction, and destroy your relationship with them.  It’s important to wait until you’re ready, the situation is ready, the relationship is ready and the other person is ready.  It might be helpful to let the person know that you want to ask them about their experience with sexuality and pornography and that they can let you know when they are ready to talk about it.